What not to say to the girl who's heart is breaking

So, in a lot of past relationships, I have been able to get over them pretty quick because in all honestly, were they even real? No. And I knew I was taking the high road by leaving them in the dust.

This time around though, with my first real relationship, I have had the hardest time with my heart. 

I'm suffering from a deep deep pain. And usually, I'm the brave one. I will put a smile on my face and tell you nothing is wrong, well I'm here to tell you I'm really not ok. I know with time, the pain will ease away but as for now, I hurt tremendously. 

Amongst these feelings I've gotten some great advice, and some not so great advice. I am SO thankful for good friends that encourage me and chase me to tell me they love me. I wouldn't be able to get through this without them. 

But, amongst some others I've heard some really hard and hurtful things. Things that hurt my heart. Here ya go:

1. "Just be happy."

I simply cannot.

2. "He wasn't good enough for you."

Well, a few weeks ago I definitely thought he was so...

3. "You are going to look back and ask yourself why you were whining about this in the first place?"

First of all, excuse me?

Second of all, hahah excuse me?

4. "The best thing to do now is just move on to someone else right now."

HAHAHA WHAAAAT. 

5. "Next month, I better see a smile on your face."

And if I don't...?

6. "He never cared about you."

That's funny, I thought this was my relationship, not yours.

7. "I don't like him." 

Ya but like....I loved him.

8. "There are plenty of fish in the sea, lex."

But only a few worth every sand dollar I can find 

So these are just some of the hurtful things I've heard. 

What have you heard? How did it hurt you? Because as broken as my heart already was, these things made me shatter a little more every time I heard them. 

So what did I need to hear? 

I needed to hear: 

1. I love you. 

2. I'm here for you.

3. I'm taking you out, let's go. 

4. It's ok to cry. 

5. I made you cookies. 

6. Let's pray. 

7. I'm here to listen. 

8. He loved you. 

Heart break hurts, but if you surround yourself with good people they help mend the brokenness day by day. 

It gets better, I promise you. 

With time and with God. 

In my time of pain and suffering, it's so important to just look up, just look up. 

His arms are open.